Rabbi Zidnee Ilman
“My Lord! Increase me in knowledge.”
You might have come across several posts that are buzzing with excitement with Ramadan around the corner. If you have just reverted to Islam and are feeling a little too apprehensive of what to expect, here’s a small attempt on my part to help you get through the initial jitters inshaAllah.
1. Dua Dua Dua
If you feel no one understands what you are going through, then know that Allah subhanahu wa taala does! So cry out to Him and cry some more, asking Him to make things easy. With His help, you can move mountains and reach your goals with ease; nothing is too daunting or heavy when you have Allah subhanahu wa taala on your side.
Place your worries in His hands and free your mind and heart from the emotional and physical burdens you might be facing. Imagine how you would trust your best friend by telling your worries to her knowing full well that she will help you out of it or will support you through it. Allah subhanahu wa taala is all that and much, much more. Make use of all the special times when the duas are accepted. A dua of a distressed believer is always answered by Allah . Click here and here to find out more
Something as simple as 2 rakats or more can ease the tensions and worries you have. Prayer can erase scars and heal wounds you never even knew existed. Pray to get an emaan high. It’s the most amazing way to spend time during Ramadan. Apart from receiving amazing blessings from your Lord, you will also learn to control and tame your nafs, making the whole process of Ramadan that much more sweeter and rewarding inshaAllah.
When you learn something, it becomes familiar, in turn making it easier for you to follow and comprehend; just like how a science theory would make no sense until you get to the roots of it and find out the why’s and how’s of it. And once you grasp the concept, it begins to make a lot sense and you have no hesitation in putting your new found knowledge into practice. The same could be said about Ramadan too. When you learn more about the blessed month and the benefits it carries, it’ll be much easier for you to utilize it and put your maximum effort into it.
4. Organization is the Key
The key to having a successful Ramadan is to organize, plan and then execute. It may sound simple but it’s a goldmine to help you have a satisfying Ramadan. Make a list of all the goals you want to achieve in Ramadan; and then ask yourself these four questions for every goal:
a) Why do you want to accomplish this goal?
b) How are you going to do this?
c) What steps are you willing to take?
d) When do you want to reach the goal?
By doing this for every single goal, your planning is complete. Now, when Ramadan comes over, all you have to do is execute the same. Refine your intentions and do it for seeking the pleasure of Allah subhanahu wa taala alone.
5. You Are Never Alone
Visit mosques or local organizations to get in touch with fellows Muslimahs who have reverted recently or even Muslims who have just started practicing the deen even though they were born into it. Surround yourself with support groups which will make your worries and struggles a lot easier, rather than battling them all alone. You can also join The Ideal Muslimah page to get in touch with revert sisters and benefit from posts that are published on their page inshaAllah.
If you find none, always remember, you have Allah subhanahu wa taala with you *all* the time. 
6. Don’t Feel Shy to Take Part In Iftaar Gatherings
If your Muslim friends or family invite you for iftaar, go for it. No! You are not going to be a burden on them and you don’t have to feel shy either. It’s a nice way to spend time and learn more about this beautiful religion.
Have fun planning iftaar parties that are halal and educational too. Get together and prepare meals for iftaar, conduct quizzes or other competitions and give prizes or discuss about one topic each day. It could be about topics that you are finding difficult to understand or anything general too.
What better way to spend the holy month than indulging in conversations that revolve around Islam and Allah subhanahu wa taala. Angels gather in places where people come to seek knowledge. Imagine being surrounded by angels who are invoking Allah’s mercy and love on you! There’s nothing more soothing than that.
7. It Is Okay If You Falter Once In A While
If you feel you’re not living up to the challenges and goals you set for yourself, its ok; you need to relax. Allah subhanahu wa taala rewards you for your intentions and He subhanahu wa taala does not overburden you more than what you can take. So don’t overburden yourself with expectations that are too high to attain.
Pick yourself up and don’t let Shaytan mess with your mind. Continue doing small consistent deeds, even if that means just reciting half a page of Quran a day. Don’t waste time on what you’ve missed, rather, concentrate on what you can do!
Points to remember
If you are scared of not waking up for suhoor, you could ask your Muslim friend to wake you up by calling you over phone or something of that sort inshaAllah.
You might feel hungry for a day or two during the fasting period. It’s not uncommon or something to be ashamed of. Even those that have been fasting during Ramadan for years feel a nagging sense of hunger for a couple of days or so. Your body will adjust to it in no time.
Plan your meals and buy your groceries beforehand so you don’t have to wonder what needs to be prepared for suhoor or iftaar.
Take this as an opportunity to give dawah to your family who may not be Muslims yet. Actions speak louder than words, and when combined with gentle words can be lethal in creating the right kind of change in their mindset inshaAllah.
Know dear sister, Allah subhanahu wa taala sees the tears and the struggles you made for this deen, and none of it, absolutely none of it will go wasted. Instead, every single hardship you face with patience will be rewarded with magnanimous bounties which no one can comprehend, except Allah subhanahu wa taala. He will give you from places unknown and will make your pathway to jannah easier inshaAllah.
Remember, being a good Muslim doesn’t end with Ramadan. You have time to grow and heal spiritually until your last breath. So don’t give up and let no one tell you otherwise.