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6 Ways In Which You Can Stop Judging Hijabi Counterparts

6 Ways Hijabi Counterparts

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All Muslim women are at different stages of the development of their faith. No one wakes up one morning and is automatically the best Muslim woman. This process takes time, consistency and patience. How often have you come across sisters who are fully covered with hijab and yet their mouths run with the wind when talking about others? This phenomenon whenever it is come across should be discarded of immediately. A useful verse of Al Quran is Ayah 94 of Surat-ul-Nisaa

“O you who have believed, when you went forth in the cause of Allāh, investigate; and do not say to one who gives you [a greeting of] peace, “you are not a believer,” aspiring for the goods of worldly life; for with Allāh are many acquisitions. You [yourselves] were like thatbefore, then Allāh conferred His favor upon you, so investigate. Indeed Allāh is ever, with what you do, Acquainted. ”
{Surat An Nisaa 4: Verse 94}

1. Remember that we are not perfect :
Perhaps there was a time where we were not praying five times a day, not dressing properly, or even being disrespectful to our parents. We were not born perfectly nor could we ever be perfect because the only perfect human being that ever was and ever will be is the Rasulullah (s.a.w.). So why then should we condemn others when they are at a point in their life where they are probably trying to figure out how to get to Allah? Don’t judge a sister because her head scarf isn’t tied the “right way,” or her clothes are “not loose enough.”
It seems hypocritical to judge others on their mistakes when we make mistakes all the time. It is only through Allah the Almighty that we can truly overcome our faults and become closer to Him and it is not within our jurisdiction to judge what another person does or doesn’t do. 

2. Do not judge based on opinions or appearances :
Looks are deceiving, perspectives are different and actions are based on intention. If we remind ourselves that Allah the Almighty is the judge over all things and he bases his judgments on our intentions, then there is no scope of finding ourselves judging our fellow sisters because in reality, we can never know what anyone’s real intention is because intentions are not written in flashing neon signs on everyone’s head. Rather, it is an internal thing, and only Allah the Almighty can know just what is in one’s heart and mind.
We should remind ourselves of the story of the prostitute who Allah the Almighty granted heaven because she gave a thirsty dog some water. This is the epitome of demonstrating that what is in the hearts of people is the most important element and it is not the frivolous things that can be seen on the surface.

3. We should not act without confirming something :
How many times have we seen a fellow sister do something and prima facie dubbed it to be wrong and instantly begun to judge her without confirming or asking her about it? We should not jump to conclusions and be quick to judge nor should we criticize without knowing the facts.

“O Allah! Creator of the heavens and the earth! Knower of all that is hidden and open! It is Thou that wilt judge between Thy Servants in those matters about which they have differed.”
{Surat Az-Zumar 39 : Verse 46}

Everything is never as it seems and we should be very careful in labeling people and judging what our fellow sisters do or do not do. What we should do is find out all the circumstances of the situation and try to help the sister through whatever it is minus the judgments.

“And Allah will judge with (Justice and) Truth: but those whom (men) invoke besides Him, will not (be in a position) to judge at all. Verily it is Allah (alone) Who hears and sees (all things).”
{Surat Al Gafir 40: Verse 20}

4. Remember where our Taqwa (consciousness of Allah) comes from :
The Rasulullah (s.a.w.) is quoted to have said, “Taqwa is here,” and he pointed to his chest.(Reported by Muslim). So who are we to say that someone does not have the level of Taqwathat we deem appropriate?

“Allah will judge between you on the Day of Judgment concerning the matters in which ye differ.”
{Surat Al-Hajj 22: Verse 69}

5. Remember that Allah is the judge over all things :

“Is not Allah the wisest of Judges?”
{Surat At-Tin 95 : Verse 8}

Who are we to place judgments on any other person when Allah the Almighty clearly state for us in His Glorious Quran that He is the wisest of all Judges? This should be left solely up to Allah the Almighty and we should guard our minds, hearts, ears and mouths from the judgments of others.

“Verily, your Lord knows better, who (among men) has gone astray from His Path, and He knows better those who are guided.”
{Surat Al Qalam 68 : Verse 7}

6. Approach the sister and try to help her through :
Perhaps it would be better for us, when we see a sister doing something that we do not agree with, that we approach her kindly and try to assist her in whatever humble way we can. It is of no use to accuse and judge, when what is really needed is the extension of a helping hand, a shoulder to cry on, or even a friend to lean on. This would benefit both ourselves and the sister as well as please Allah the Almighty.

“Help one another in acts of piety and righteousness. And do not assist each other in acts of sinfulness and transgression. And be aware of Allah. Verily, Allah is severe in punishment”
{Surat Al-Maaidah 5 : Verse 2}

In conclusion then, it would seem that we need to do some introspection rather than judge our fellow sisters. Perhaps when we are criticizing her use of make-up, we are neglecting some other part of our deen. Reflect. Rejuvenate. Restore. Respect.

Authored by  RHALi
Edited by Noorain Fathima

Prophet Muhammad - "Convey (knowledge) from me even if it is just one ayah" [Bukhari 3461]

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2 comments

  1. Abhishek Vipul Thakkar

    Beautiful article Rhali! I will share it on my profile. Keep up the good work! 🙂

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