Rabbi Zidnee Ilman
“My Lord! Increase me in knowledge.”
Assalamualaikum wa-rahmatullahi wa-barakatahu,
Sometimes no amount of tips and advises work best like the spiritual tips do! So even though, in my next post, I shall share some practical tips on overcoming sadness, inshaAllah, here are some spiritual must do’s for us to get started with, beginning in the name of Allah!
1.Work on your relationship with Allah(subhaana wa ta’aala):
In our struggle for peace in our lives, we often seek help from the people around, only to return empty handed. We forget that the only One who truly understands us is our Almighty, who is the only ONE who knows every little pain we are going through; and so we need to make a sincere effort in improving our relationship with Him – Our Creator! There is a need for us to befriend Him. We should make our pain a tool by which we can draw closer to Allah. When you are left alone, think that may be Allah sent everyone away so that it was just you and Him; and so begin to work on your relationship with the Divine.
(The next 3 tips #2, #3 and #4 are the words of Abu Productive from Productive Muslim’s newsletter)
You cannot underestimate the power of Salah in managing emotions, especially negative emotions. When you feel down/depressed/anxious or stressed, instead of torturing yourself with those emotions, get up and make wudhu and pray 2 rak’ah and watch yourself feel 10 times better afterwards. If praying 2 rak’ah didn’t help, pray 2 more, and 2 more…until you feel better, and trust me, you will feel better. Salah is the gift that Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’aala) has given us in this world and one cannot describe the type of spiritual heart surgery that occurs during prayer, which makes you feel so much more better inshaAllah.
After praying your 2 rak’ah, and if you’re still feeling down, pick up the Quran and read it. Don’t just read a page or two, but truly immerse yourself in the experience and read as much as you can. After a while, you’ll notice that your negative emotions are gone and you’re feeling really calm and relaxed. When you’re reading the Quran, imagine Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’aala) speaking to you through His Quran and try to understand every word and every meaning and perhaps you might find the answer to your emotional situation in the verses you’re reading.
You’ve prayed 2 rak’ah, you’ve read lots of Quran, now it’s time to turn to Him (Subhanahu wa ta’aala) and ask Him for His help in your situation. Ask Him to give you the calmness and happiness you want in your life. Ask Him to give you the blessing of tranquility regardless of the situation you’re facing. And by the way, when making dua, don’t just read the standard duas you read daily, but truly speak to Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’aala) even in your own language and ask him what you want. He listens and He understands and He knows what you’re going through. Just be sincere and humble when making the dua and you’ll feel the sweetness of being the slave of Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’aala) inshaAllah.
I recently happened to read some really powerful words via a sister, may Allah bless her for sharing it. The words read “Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’aala) listens and already knows what is in your heart, but He wants you to ASK him for what you want”. When I read these words, I almost cried because they came at the time when I REALLY needed to hear something like that, alhumdulillah!
Occupy yourself in the dhikr of Allah. Just mere “La ilaha ilallah”, “SubhanAllah”, ”alhumdulillah”, “Allahu Akbar” will not only make way for you to earn reward from Allah, but also keep Satan’s whispers away, inshaAllah!
According to the Hadeeth narrated by Muslim on the authority of Abu Hurairah “Allah descends (in a manner befitting His Majesty) to the lowest heaven every night when half of the night or two-third of it is over and says: “Is there anyone asking who may be given? Is there anyone supplicating who may be answered?” Shaikh Yasir Qadhi says “If you want something in your life and you aren’t praying Tahajjud for it, then in reality you don’t really want it.”
This article – magic called tahajjud by a dear sister is really inspiring and talks about her own experience of praying tahajjud. So yes, let’s set our alarms for tahajjud from tomorrow, inshaAllah, and beg, plead and ask Allah to set things right for us!
Lastly, majority of our problems are lightened when we detach ourselves from this world. Quite often, we expect too much from the people around and hoping everything to be perfect and when things turn out otherwise, we fall big time. So let’s save ourselves from that torture and lower our expectations. Let’s remember that true peace and total perfection can only be achieved in the Hereafter, in our abode in Jannah… where everything is perfect! So for the “forever” happiness we need to work and be patient in the tests of this world so that we can be dwellers of Paradise in the Hereafter, inshaAllah!
Last piece of advice by brother Abu Productive: “When you go through an emotional downturn, remember that this world is temporary, so don’t stress about it too much. Worry about the hereafter and what you’ve prepared for it, that’s what we should all be stressed about.”
May Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’aala) make it easy for us. Ameen.
P.S. Don’t forget Allah loves you… like alotttt!